THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU HAVE

SUFFERED A LOSS

 

1.    THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE YOUR FEELINGS IS NOT TO “HANDLE” THEM, BUT TO FEEL THEM.

 

2.    ONLY BY GIVING YOUR LOSS EXPRESSION WILLYOU BEGIN TO HEAL.

 

3.    SELDOM IS THIS LOSS ONLY “THIS LOSS” FOR YOU.

 

4.    THERE IS ONE PERSON WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU BETTER THAN ANYONE, AND THAT’S YOU.

 

5.     IN ALLOWING OTHERS TO HELP YOU, YOU HELP EVERYONE: THEM AND YOU.

 

6.     GOD MAY NOT BE FINISHED YET WITH THOSE WHO TRY TO GIVE YOU CARE.

 

7.     SOMETIMES IT MAKES PERFECT SENSE TO ACT ALITTLE CRAZY.

 

8.     YOUR GRIEVING, YOUR TIMING AND YOUR PROGRESS IN HEALING ARE ALL UNIQUELY YOURS, AND THAT’S AS IT SHOULD BE.

 

9.     YOU HAVE A CHOICE IN HOW YOU RESPOND TO YOUR LOSS.

 

10. YOUR TIME OF LOSS CAN BE A TIME OF SOUL-MAKING LIKE NO OTHER.

 

11. NOT ALL YOUR QUESTIONS WILL HAVE ANSWERS, BUT THEY ARE WORTH ASKING ANYWAY.

 

12. YOUR TIME OF LOSS CAN BECOME A TIME OF DISCOVERY.

 

WHAT WILL HELP ME?

by James E. Miller